Your Excellence Is Showing: Recognizing Growth When It’s Quiet

The other day, I caught myself doing something I never used to do.

I paused, took a deep breath, and chose not to respond angrily.

I let my son take one of our “house phones” with him to Urban Air. It wasn’t his phone, but it was the one we keep around for emergencies or just-in-case moments. He asked, I said yes, and off he went.

Later that evening, as Urban Air was closing and I was sitting at the entrance waiting on him to exit, he came out without the phone.

He’d lost it in the ball pit.

A year ago, I would’ve been livid. I would’ve gone into a full speech about responsibility, consequences, and money. I would’ve let my frustration lead the conversation.

But instead, I paused. I breathed. And I reminded myself he’s a kid. Kids make mistakes. That’s how they learn.

In that moment, I realized I was learning too. My therapist would be so proud. Honestly, I might even print that moment out and bring it to our next session like a certificate of progress (ha!).

That moment was simple, small, and probably forgettable to him, but it was one of the clearest signs that I’ve grown.

There’s this version of me I used to live in. The one who needed everything to be controlled and understood. The one who reacted quickly because silence felt too uncomfortable. The one who said yes out of guilt and stayed too long to avoid making things messy.

She’s still in there sometimes, but lately, she’s been taking a back seat.

No one clapped when I chose peace over proving a point. No one celebrated when I said no without the apology. No one handed me a certificate for walking away from something that no longer fit.

But I noticed.

And that’s how I know I’m growing.

We love the kind of excellence that’s easy to post. Promotions. Titles. Shiny new bios. But some of the most meaningful growth? It’s quiet. It shows up in how you respond, how you recover, how you protect your peace.

Lately, I’ve realized that I’m becoming someone I would’ve admired a few years ago. Someone who extends grace. Someone who moves with intention. Someone who knows she doesn’t need to be loud to be powerful.

That’s growth.

It doesn’t always come with applause. But it’s still loud—in the way your body exhales, in the way your mind quiets, in the way your spirit says thank you.

If you’ve been wondering whether you’re making progress, whether you’re becoming more of who you’re meant to be. This is your reminder: you are.

Your excellence is showing. Even if it’s subtle.
Even if no one else sees it yet.
Even if you’re still figuring it out.

Keep going. Keep growing.

Because wah fi yuh, cyaan un fi yuh.

~ Meisha